Dating a younger boy in high school metrology calibration dating
I thought they’d match my maturity level, would “have their shit together” and would, in general, be better partners for me, the self-professed “old soul”.
Usually the guys were 4 or 5 years older, sometimes they were 8 or 10 years older (and I went on one date with a guy who was like, 18 years older), but they were ALWAYS older. I recently started dating a younger man – he’s four years younger than me – and honestly? Here’s why: Editor’s note: I’ve opened this post a jillion times to try to write it without sounding like “in defense of this one particular younger man I’m dating”.
Although the idea of a "cougar" who dates much younger men has a certain cultural cachet, being a woman in your twenties who simply chooses a partner who's a bit younger is often viewed as weird, desperate, or deluded — basically, anything besides what it is, which is totally normal.
People have a much easier time, it seems, getting on board with the idea of a woman taking a younger partner for purely sexual reasons than they do with the idea of a woman in a serious relationship with a younger partner.
Probably seems obvious to you that age isn’t everything to do with intelligence, but it was something I hadn’t considered. ) He doesn’t seem to have baggage that scares him away from wanting future-things, like to get married and have a family.
He teaches me something new every day and I really respect him. I do have baggage, but I still want those things and I shouldn’t feel bad about that, nor should I settle and not get the things I want. I graduated college the year he graduated high school. It feels kind of dumb to be writing a post about this as if it’s some kind of revolutionary discovery.
They’re called kinks because they’re a bend in the straight line of normal.
We hide them and at some point we may admit them to our partners, but we don’t wear them on our sleeves, even though they satisfy something in us and make us happy.