Dating after 65
With our hypercharged careers, family responsibilities, keeping up with the news and working out -- who has the time to meet people anymore? What woman in her 50s really enjoys meeting strange men at bars? I had given it some hard thinking, but my relationship with my husband, which began when we were both in college, really couldn't make it for the long haul. About a year later, I encountered a friendly, good-looking neighbor, who had just recently become single. My reasoning was this: If I don't do anything, don't "get out there," nothing bad will happen. After everything posted, I got a flood of responses from men. What nobody really seems to tell you is that for every online dating success story, there are hundreds of failures: misleading (or outright fraudulent) profiles, years-old photos (at 50, that makes a real difference), awkward conversations, sexual miscues, and clearly incompatible goals. After juggling two children and a demanding job, my first marriage ended in divorce. Yes, if you don't do anything, nothing bad happens. It needed a dash of wit, a sprinkling of sass and an attractive photo. As for the photo: There's no such thing as too attractive. And then she found Ben -- only three hours away." Only three hours? I approached online dating very seriously, enlisting help from close friends for my profile. Everybody seems to know somebody who's met her significant other online. "She was smart enough to increase her radius of possibilities to 150 miles.My friends would gently nudge me: "Why don't you just go out more, even with friends? " The last time someone called me a babe was, well, never. In addition to online dating, I've tried the novel approach of meeting men in person -- at a speed dating event. Having a five-minute conversation isn't much of a barometer for a relationship. I've told friends to keep on the lookout for suitable partners for me.Yet, I tried to make the best of it, until he made a pass at me in the elevator. I also have a couple of first dates next week with men I've met online. Over the past couple of weeks I’d been e-mailing a woman who initiated contact with me.
We have a date scheduled for Saturday evening to get drinks.And if all you got back from this woman was stony silence, at least you know you acted with class and integrity.This reminds me of a friend who’d had a great first date shortly before he was to leave town for a business trip.Four days later, he checks in again to see if he can reach her. He returns home, and hears through the grapevine that she thought he was a good guy but was a little too “needy.”This drives me fucking nuts.
Ladies who are reading this — I am pleading with you to find some consistency.But presuming he did nothing wrong, what is he to take from this latest dating endeavor? Go on, we’re dying to hear…Markus, I think it was great to email and ask to call. Good Luck but if she doesn’t respond via email or pick up the phone, you might need to cut her a little slack because you don’t know if she was able to get the email that would tell her to be by the phone.