Dating no money
(I haaaate the phone, and I certainly never had time for long lovey-dovey talks when I was at the firm.) Some people like to be taken to really nice restaurants or the “hot” new place, which your date may or may not be able to afford (either for you or for him).
This will differ with every relationship, but it may especially come into play more if you’re dating someone with more time than you, less money, or both.
And I think that brings us to the first topic: A relationship is nothing without mutual respect. Do you respect the person you’re dating and his or her career choices?
Does a career that pays less, or requires less time, rate lower in your eyes? If you find yourself rolling your eyes when he explains things to you about his career or his job, it may be time to move on.
Maybe talk about how your family viewed money or what you’d do if you had a million dollars.
Dating someone does not yet have the same long-term outlook as being married or engaged, but it’s a big step.
If he’s going to bars every night or playing video games, do either of those activities worry you?
If he doesn’t seem to be doing anything and is just so excited to get your call, does bother you?
(Hey, I’ll admit it.) After a few years on the New York dating scene that was whittled down to “taller” — and I was even flexible on that point.
Still, I had particular problems dating other people in the same field as me because my competitive instincts came out, and if a guy hadn’t approached things exactly the same way that I had, then I had respect issues.
I keep reading that the primary thing couples fight about is money, so look at this seriously. A fun game that I only played with my husband after we were married was the “If I made $__, my lifestyle would be ____” game. If anything makes either of your eyebrows fly up, talk about it.