Dating violence message
I have made conscious decisions lately to look like less of what I felt a male would want to see.
I want to disappear.” ― tags: advocates, america, anxiety, anxiety-attack, anxiety-disorders, arizona, child-abuse, control, corruption, crime, crime-and-punishment, domestic, domestic-abuse, domestic-violence, enable-abuse, family, family-drama, family-relationships, fighter, government, growing-up, growth, healing, hope, hopeful, hopeful-heart, hurt, injustice, inspire, justice, justice-system, law-enforcement, lawmakers, laws, life, living, memoir, memories, overcoming, panic-attack, panic-attacks, pedophile, physical-abuse, police, politicians, politics, post-traumatic-stress, power, powerful-story, powerless, ptsd, quote, quotes, rape, rape-culture, rape-of-a-child, rape-survivor, raped, red-tape, safety, sexual-abuse, sexual-assault, sexual-violence, south, southern, survival, survive, survivor, survivors-of-abuse, truth, united-states, united-states-of-america, violence, violence-against-women, youth “Personally, I believe "if it ain't broke, don't fix it".
When she stands up to him, he makes her pay for it—sooner or later.
Friends say: “Leave him.” But she knows it won’t be that easy. He’ll get friends and relatives to feel sorry for him and pressure her to give him another chance.
He may simply not fit anyone’s image of a cruel or intimidating person.
So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser.” ― “It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her as an excuse to mistreat you, stop believing anything he tells you about that relationship and instead recognize it as a sign that he has problems with relating to women.” ― “The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt.
Has he ever held you down or grabbed you to restrain you? You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit.
But he’s not so much needy as entitled, so no matter how much you give him, it will never be enough.
Has he ever thrown an object that hit you or nearly did? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, then we can stop wondering whether he’ll ever be violent; he already has been.” ― “An abuser can seem emotionally needy.
And he treats his wife with respect every day of his life, treats her like a queen - the queen of the home she makes for their children.” ― “The abusive man’s high entitlement leads him to have unfair and unreasonable expectations, so that the relationship revolves around his demands.