"My rule of thumb is to meet in person within two weeks of making online contact." Might as well find out as soon as you can if the chemistry is virtual — or real.Of course, when you do meet, take basic safety precautions. He may have seemed great, but loses interest, or is dating someone else, or has problems you will never know about.But it's also tough, she adds, because once you're on the dating scene you can feel like a teenager again, in that shaky, unconfident, not-sure-if-he'll-call sort of way.So how can you make post-divorce dating — whether you're looking for a good time or a good (relationship-minded) man — less daunting?Second, you can compare what you like and don't like.Maybe one guy is very funny, but you enjoy another man's intellectual stimulation.That said, don't let a fear of your children being upset or disapproving stop you from getting out there if you feel ready to.
"Just say, 'I'm enjoying dating you, but I want you to know that for now I'm also seeing others casually.'" Hopefully it's obvious to you that if you have children at home, you shouldn't bring dates around unless it's somewhat serious.‘I believe honesty is the best policy and would recommend a single parent always revealing that detail upfront.‘Any trusting relationship starts with honesty from the very beginning.Instead, "it's usually clear when you're not ready," says Susan Pease Gadoua, a therapist and author of . But once the idea of going on a date comes into your mind and you don't want to chase it out again, you're at least ready to start, she says. The idea is that you should consciously decide how you want to proceed," which will in turn inform how you go about meeting people.
If it's truly awful, you can take a step back and wait some more. Gadoua, who runs dating workshops for women, asks them to free-associate words that come to mind when they think of "dating." Not surprisingly, words like "awful" and "dreadful" come up.
‘I just didn’t think I would fall in love again’ – not an unusual feeling after a divorce or separation.