Effects of staying single vs dating
So sure, you’ve been single a long time, but you have to trust that you’ve stayed single because you know what you want in a romantic partner and aren’t willing to settle for anything less than you think you deserve, just as long as you aren’t picky to the point that you expect everyone you meet to be perfect.Once you stop using that relationship muscle, do you lose it altogether?A guy who is used to being single does his favourite things all the time, he never has to make compromises or actually think about how his actions will affect another person.He’s free to party when he wants, drink to excess and make a fool of himself because the only person he has to embarrass is himself, turn his phone off and disappear from the world when he’s hungover because he doesn’t have someone constantly wanting to know his whereabouts, and he can sleep with however many women he wants and doesn’t have to worry about his slutiness affecting anything but his own moral conscious. Thus being in a relationship isn’t the be-all-to-end-all.
A guy in a relationship sees a hot girl, he probably wants to have sex with that hot girl but he doesn’t because there is this other human who would be completely and utterly destroyed if he did.
Just as someone who goes months and months without sex may be worry their genitals will become dried up and not functional, someone who goes for so many years without an actual relationship may worry their capacity to be happy and functional in a committed relationship may leave them as well.
While it’s definitely going to be a hell of a transition going from being VERY single to all of a sudden being in a relationship, you have to trust that it will be easy when you find someone you care about enough.
Even if you meet a woman who you really like, even love, you may run the risk of jeopardizing your relationship when you carry over the habits you’ve been doing for the past however many years as a single guy.
The hard truth is that you need to change certain things about your behaviour when you’re in a committed relationship with someone.
That’s a lot of responsibility for someone, especially someone who hasn’t had to deal with that responsibility in quite some time.