Filipino concept of dating and marriage
Being from the United Kingdom, you inevitably become accustomed to Western ways and of course in turn, Western women. In the UK, if a person, known or unknown, were to arrive at your door, for what we’ll assume is some good and honest reason, then you would at first be a little suspicious. Even before you can manage a single, socially awkward , ‘Err, hello, so nice to meet you,’ you’ll already have met Mum, Dad, the grandparents and anyone else who happens to be in easy reach.Having left Britain some time ago and having now been with Kach for over a year, I thought I’d reflect on some of the things I’ve learned being in a relationship with a Filipina and how I may have changed in the process. ‘They must want something from me,’ you would think, or even more sadly, ‘What? Not only that, but quite literally out of nowhere, there will appear enough food to feed a small village for a week.It’s the little things that count, like lovingly prepared home-cooked meals every day and random head massages – not because you asked or she feels she has to, but because she wants to. She may be extremely loving, caring and loyal, but that doesn’t mean she’ll let you get away with being a shit boyfriend or husband.‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned’ does not even begin to describe an angry Filipina – You have been warned!Kach often tells me that although many Filipinos are very patient, if you push them too far, they could really hurt you.Of course, I think she’s probably just trying to scare me, but would you take that risk with the woman who watches you sleep?!Another copy will be kept as part of the Embassy’s records and a third copy will be given to the applicant.
She will quite happily spend half an hour trying to negotiate 5 cents off the price of an apple and then perform a victory dance on upon completion of the deal! The mysterious truth It’s a well-trodden stereotype in the West that Asian women are exceptionally loving, loyal and generous to their men and this is certainly true of Filipino women (though I’ve only known one! However, let it be crystal clear that this is not the same as subservient; personally I want a relationship, an equal partner.So there you have it: 5 things I’ve learned after almost two incredible years together.