Im dating my teacher
Between planning for the next school year, working summer sessions, and attending professional development workshops, summers aren’t all vacay.Plus, they either get their pay for nine months stretched out over the year, or they don’t get paid during summer, so budgets are tight. As if I were lonely in my office, just waiting for a conversation partner. Stayed in my office for almost an hour, asking personal questions and telling me how special I was. I said, “My FIANCE is taking me out to dinner.” Walked to my car, and then sneaked back into my office and worked with the door closed. One time he found out my birthday and brought cake and flowers. We hear plenty of stories about lecherous professors. And I can get that from someone old enough to buy me a drink first. For every student who fantasizes about their teacher, a teacher does the same. Peter and I both knew he'd be in major trouble if word got out, so we did our best to keep our sexcapades stealthy.
His opening line was, “The thing is, I find you incredibly attractive. Anytime we turn up in the news, it’s for something bad. But we have to acknowledge that there’s nothing inherently wrong with dating someone you used to teach. It wasn’t about some lecherous professor trying to get laid, or taking advantage of their authority. In the end, there’s nothing wrong with finding a teacher attractive. They land cushy jobs as consultants and TV pundits. A publicly shamed teacher might wind up in a van down by the river. Besides, I’ve never met anyone in my classes that warranted the risk. I’ve never considered any of my students dating material. I’ve wondered why sex and education have such an odd relationship. During the day, we’re tasked with educating young adults about the world. Unless I post a full nude selfie on my faculty profile page, or sext undergrads on the weekends, then I’m probably not the source of corruption that politicians would have the public believe. Politicians engage in these same criminal behaviors. When they do, they rarely feel them in their wallets. You don’t hear so much about healthy, consensual relationships forming between teachers and students. They managed to do so with a surprising absence of stigma. We would have a lot less trouble if we didn’t repress talk about sex and sexuality. Whether you see pics on Facebook or not, we’re doing it. I’m not saying let teachers do whatever they want, just stop scapegoating us for everything that’s wrong today.
One colleague narrowly escaped being fired after he invited a student to his house and tried to make out with her over cappuccinos and biscotti. A few friends of mine married former students from their undergrad seminars. Seems like anytime I write about sex, I wind up coming to the same general conclusions. When nobody’s looking, we have normal consensual sex and drink alcohol.
Teachers face all kinds of risks when they’re not dancing in music videos. That happened to one teacher who posted “too many” workout photos. Every day, some teacher gets in trouble because students dig into their smartphones looking for nudes. Executive producers can make a killing off the trope of sexy teacher. A male student joked about giving her a spanking, and setting a sterner curfew. We’re paid squat, but half the country thinks we should be carrying firearms to protect their kids. Sometimes, I’ll share just enough to make myself look normal. And if any of them do stumble across my profile, they’d better not bring it up in class.