Qualities to look for in a man when dating
There is a folk tale of an elderly king somewhere in the heart of Africa. When the time came for the young man to find a wife, the king reminded his son she needed to be a woman qualified and capable of one day serving as his queen.So the young man began his search for such a woman of beauty and character.It means lovingly sitting down together after a hard day of work.It means sometimes putting our partner ahead of others things we want to do—and appreciating it when our partner does the same for us. This means staying when things are going well (and you feel like running), and being willing to let go of the relationship if it is unhealthy.One partner should not believe in monogamy while the other hopes to entertain side flings.When it comes to the children, it will be easier if you both agree on the parenting style, as this can avoid needless conflict within the whole family system. Patience is one of those things that comes and goes.It also means that they choose to display their values by acting as a role-model, rather than nagging you (or others) to change. Codependents have no boundaries and neglect themselves.Love avoidants have rigid boundaries and won’t let you in. How can an intimate relationship feel good if we aren’t special to each other?
Now we have to find our own way in a new world where women want more and men are often intimidated by this.
I found Judith Sill's, "A Fine Romance," very helpful.