Setting physical boundaries in dating relationships
First of all, let us be clear: Your partner should never use hurtful language toward you. about what triggers you to lash out, you’ll avoid getting upset at your current partner about something that should stay in the past.
However, it is wise to discuss if there are certain words that remind you of a negative experience or an abusive relationship (whether emotional or physical). Do you have friends who share intimate details about their relationships that make you cringe?
(Hey, a safe word is never a bad idea.) Some people don’t need a lot of space, while others do (case in point: Carrie Bradshaw, who kept her own apartment even when she married Big).
Going through the motions of something because you faintly remember learning it was the right thing to do, will eventually leave you feeling frustrated and tired of not being “authentic” (doing what you’d really rather do).
Being one-half of a healthy couple requires a lot of things—great conflict-solving abilities, the skill of communicating, and staying positive even in difficult circumstances.