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They are not waiting on Friday night hoping "he" will call. Not Exactly."It's not that people aren't dating," explained Ms.
Rozler, an editorial assistant at Allworth Press when she is not practicing nightclub anthropology. People still want to be in relationships, but they don't want to be settling."But even as they raise pink drinks in the air and roll their eyes at the absurdity of commitment, these are not women embracing sexual abandon.
"But the second 'he' comes along," she said knowingly, "it's done."And while "The Hookup Handbook" explicitly forbids its readers to mistake a hookup for a potential boyfriend, not everyone thought that was realistic.
"People who are hooking up are trying to get into a serious relationship," insisted Caitlin Gaffey, 24, a beauty assistant at the magazine Shop Etc.
The number in question is the total number of men that a woman has slept with, and the question is on their minds because they were among two dozen or so young Manhattanites who dropped by One Little West 12, a restaurant and club in the meatpacking district of Manhattan, on Tuesday to discuss "The Hookup Handbook: A Single Girl's Guide to Living It Up" by Andrea Lavinthal and Jessica Rozler, published last month (Simon Spotlight Entertainment). Rozler and their friends suggests that mating rituals of the much-celebrated hookup culture, at least as practiced by young professional women, seems to owe as much to Doris Day as to Samantha Jones.
The book's title and many of its guidelines ("Getting a room isn't just polite, it's a necessity") suggest that a new sexual revolution is afoot among a fast-and-loose generation nurtured on the wisdom of "Sex and the City," who see boyfriends as passé, dating as dated and the idea of commitment laughable. Yes, they take pride in having thrown off the shackles of earlier generations of single women. Spontaneity is crucial, but even more is a good clean exit strategy from any guy who turns out to be Mr.
Lavinthal, an editor at Cosmopolitan, even as she conceded that the title of her book had racy overtones.
It might come as a surprise that anyone under the age of 29 would need a definition for a term that has grown as ubiquitous in youth culture as customized ring tones. "For one thing, you can take the phone with you."Most women at the club expounded happily on what a hookup meant for them.
Lavinthal and her friends show that not much has changed in 30 years, except perhaps the verbs."I think it was sort of established in 1962 that you didn't have to be married to have a good life," she said.
Still, the back cover of "The Hook-up Handbook" makes a stab at it: a hookup is "anything from making out to doing the nasty, generally with no commitment or plans for said commitment." But as Ms. Rozler explain it, a hookup has less to do with what happens between people than with the surrounding circumstances: specifically, that the meeting is unplanned and even unexpected. "Late-night grinding on the dance floor, maybe a little groping" was one version, said Kate Kilgore, who is in public relations at Victoria's Secret Beauty.
The few men who spoke up seemed to find the elastic nature of the term somewhat tiresome.
"There are so many definitions," said Corey Zolcinski, a commercial real estate representative and disc jockey.
"Some people think that it means meeting for a drink."The age of the hookup certainly does not seem to mean a new era of free love.
Kilgore estimated that out of a random group of 10 women her age, only two or three will have a steady boyfriend, and the pressure that existed even a decade ago to be seen having a boyfriend had lessened. "I'll go through phases where I'm hooking up or making out with a guy a week," she said matter-of-factly, "but then go a month" without. These girls grew up just wanting to have fun but knew not to have too much."We've had so much sex ed," Ms. "With strangers, we are really cautious of the disease thing."And merely willing that age-old standards no longer apply does not make it so.